My Aunt Ko Kwai Fun was a dedicated daughter, kind and gentle sister, loving and caring aunt. She was the most generous and sincere person one would ever meet. Always thinking of others first. Selfless beyond reproach. She never spoke a harsh word of or to anyone. On the rare occasion she was frustrated, though by no means angry, one never saw her lose her temper. She always gave people the benefit of the doubt or found the most positive way of rationalizing even the darkest of situations. Kwai Fun was an idealist and could always see the silver lining around the cloud, no matter how bleak things became. To her, everyone had good intentions. This was likely a reflection of her pure, gentle and kind heart that she projected onto others.
Studious from a young age, she was the consummate academic and intellectual. Throughout her primary and secondary schooling, she was perpetually the top student in her grade every year. She went on to graduate with honors from the University of Hong Kong, followed by a Master in History. She became a teacher at St. Paul’s College and rose to head the History Department where she was respected and well loved by both students and staff. She had a love for history and literature and could always be found with a book in her hand or tucked away in her purse.
Even with a strong intellectual capacity, she never flaunted it. Instead, she was humble, generous with her time and self-effacing. Throughout her life, she was the type of individual who was always first to offer to help others or patiently listen to anyone in need. Her kindness had few (if any) limits and many a times, she would go out of her way to provide assistance, even to her detriment. She would deprive herself, but never consider doing so to others.
She was a very thoughtful individual who never missed a special occasion. There was always a card and a gift to accompany it. What was exceptional about her was that she made a point to remember every person’s individual preferences, whether it was a hobby or favourite colour. She remembered these small details and would make time to find the perfect present each year. In return, she never asked for anything back nor ever had expectations of others. Her munificence had no bounds.
In addition to all these qualities, she will be remembered for the love she had for her family. For those who knew her when she still lived in Hong Kong, she was a dutiful daughter and constant companion to her mother. My first recollection of her was that of a soft-spoken and gentle woman who was a devoted daughter. She was always at her mother’s side, and always close at hand. Even though this happened when I was the age of three, this memory is still vivid.
In 1988, my grandmother came to Canada. Kwai Fun demonstrated her dedication to her family when she resigned from her teaching position in the middle of the school term, and came to Toronto to care for her ailing mother. Later, when grandma was hospitalized, Kwai Fun visited her daily and continued to be by her side from morning 'til night until she passed away.
Kwai Fun will be remembered for her smile. She rarely was seen without it. No matter the challenges life put before her, she faced it all with a smile. It is also rather extraordinary that through all the years, one never heard Kwai Fun complain or have any regrets. Instead, she would find a positive way of rationalizing everything. Ever the optimist, she remained upbeat through thick and thin, while always finding the right words to say in any given situation. She was also patient beyond belief. Her soft-spoken, kind and gentle nature belied her strength in character. She did however have a stubborn streak, though strangely enough, this seemed to only be exploited when it disadvantaged her the most. It was never employed to hurt others.
Despite the fact that Kwai Fun typically dressed plainly, and only occasionally dressed up, she was an attractive woman. She had eyes that emanated her joyful spirit and high cheekbones, enhanced by her delicate smile. Though she was not charismatic in the traditional definition of the word, she had a presence and aura to her that radiated an inner beauty. She always carried herself with grace and elegance.
Interestingly, though she lived Christian values all her life, she did not embrace the Catholic faith until she was in Canada. She was truly accepting of God’s will. She was what one would imagine to be the embodiment of an angel. When one reads the prayer of St. Francis of Assisi, it is incredible to realize that she truly lived the values he tells us to aspire to. For those unfamiliar with this prayer, it is as follows:
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
Depending on how you read her name, it suited her beautifully. Kwai Fun was our delicate fragrance. Even now, like the fragrance of a flower, her presence lingers. Ko Kwai, as many of her friends called her, also means noble, elegant and classy. Ko Kwai Fun was certainly a magnificent representation of both of these poetic depictions. It was our privilege to have known her, and to call her our sister, aunt and friend. Ko Kwai Fun, we love you and miss you dearly. It was our blessing to have known you, whether for many years or even a fleeting moment. You were our living angel. May you now be among these eternal beings in heaven above.
(By Francoise Ko, Kwai Fun's niece)
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
難捨 by Louella Szeto
桂芬離開我們，轉眼已是一個月有多了，在這個多月來，每當我翻閱我那本記電話號碼的小冊子、揭到寫下桂芬名字的那一頁時，我總不願意把她的名字和電話號碼擦掉，是難捨，真的很難捨、和十分不願意、真的不願意擦掉，連她的電郵地址也是一樣，還存在我的電腦內，沒有刪除！
上星期五、桂芬的家人為她在天主教堂安排了一堂安息彌撒及追悼會，奈何那天我有要事不能抽身到教堂去，無法跟桂芬正式道別！
桂芬，你在人生的旅途上，走了一段不算太長、又不算是太短的日子，而我們相處的時間，實在短暫，真恨不得時光能倒流，好讓我們能重溫相聚的時刻，我跟你雖然稱不上是密友，但從大學時代到現今，我們都相識了有幾十個年頭，而我由始至終都喜愛你接待朋友的那份真誠和熱心，更欣賞你能生長在這個虛浮與庸俗的社會中、可以保持著一塵不染，內心充滿著人世間罕見的真、善、美，不愧是我們同學中的一盞明燈，照亮著我們，現在你回到天父的身邊，相信你已成為神的天使，為神作事，此刻正在天邊微笑地看顧著我們。
唉！不願不願還需願，不說不說亦需說，桂芬，雖是難捨你，也得在此向你說聲：別矣！這只是塵世間的暫別，因為我相信他朝有日在天父的世界裡，我們會再度相逢、為神作事，到那時候，希望你能給予我們指引，正如你在世時一樣。
(Louella Szeto 司徒玉苡 - 寫於二零零九年十二月一日)
上星期五、桂芬的家人為她在天主教堂安排了一堂安息彌撒及追悼會，奈何那天我有要事不能抽身到教堂去，無法跟桂芬正式道別！
桂芬，你在人生的旅途上，走了一段不算太長、又不算是太短的日子，而我們相處的時間，實在短暫，真恨不得時光能倒流，好讓我們能重溫相聚的時刻，我跟你雖然稱不上是密友，但從大學時代到現今，我們都相識了有幾十個年頭，而我由始至終都喜愛你接待朋友的那份真誠和熱心，更欣賞你能生長在這個虛浮與庸俗的社會中、可以保持著一塵不染，內心充滿著人世間罕見的真、善、美，不愧是我們同學中的一盞明燈，照亮著我們，現在你回到天父的身邊，相信你已成為神的天使，為神作事，此刻正在天邊微笑地看顧著我們。
唉！不願不願還需願，不說不說亦需說，桂芬，雖是難捨你，也得在此向你說聲：別矣！這只是塵世間的暫別，因為我相信他朝有日在天父的世界裡，我們會再度相逢、為神作事，到那時候，希望你能給予我們指引，正如你在世時一樣。
(Louella Szeto 司徒玉苡 - 寫於二零零九年十二月一日)
Monday, November 30, 2009
More photos from Tessie - taken in Aug, 2007 during the 40th HKU graduation reunion
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
You Can Write A Few Lines To Remember Ko Kwai Here On This Blog Now: --
Some of you who read this blog for Ko Kwai might want to write a few lines to remember her. You can do so by clicking "comments" below. A new page will appear - select anonymous and then start writing your piece. But please don't forget to sign your name at the bottom of your writing before clicking "publish your comment". Thanks.
Please click "comments" here to view lines written by Wong Sau Por, Lucille, Ho Kwai Ming, Matilda, Sin Ling, Stanley Ng, Christopher Wong Bun Hung, Manying Sung, Cynthia Lui...
(Since these comments are not shown on the front page, many of you might have neglected to read them. For easier access, I've copied these comments here for all to read. -LS)
From Wong Sau-Por
October 28, 2009 4:30 PM
I am one of the fortunate ones who knew Kwai Fun since high school.We lived in the same apartment building in HK and I got to know her family as well. Dear friend, I shall miss you and remember you always- your soft smile,your generosity and kindness to others. Rest in peace dear friend.
From Lucille
October 28, 2009 5:40 PM
Knowing Ko Kwai is a great blessing and I will cherish it forever.
Ko Kwai, Many thanks for your loving care and encouragement. You don't have to worry about me. I promise you I will take good care of my health.
Till we meet again.
From Ho Kwai Ming
October 29, 2009 1:35 AM
I met Kokwai at the age of 12. She was almost a goddess to me. It was unthinkable to read about my classmate in Wah Kiu Yat Po, with high praises for her calligraphy in an exhibition. She was good at every subject. I could only admire her from afar. I think I got the name HoKwai because of her.
I was lucky to be able to spend three years in the same class (she was always in 'A', the best class). I came to know that this gentle soul was more than human. I met her a few times outside school. Every time, she was with her mum. She was the most loving daughter I have known.
In St. Paul's College, I have noticed the patience she had with her boys. I heard from the boys that they would never lie to her for two reasons: first, she was never offended, and secondly, she would not doubt them.
I still remember the happy reunion when I visited Toronto. But it is sad to know that such gatherings would be without KoKwai.
From Matilda
October 30, 2009 9:27 AM
I've arranged for Ko Kwai's name to be announced at the 7:00 pm mass for the repose of her soul at Saviour of the World Church in Mississauga by Fr. Lung. For those who wish to attend, SOTW Church is located on 30 Bristol Road W. To get there from Scarborough, take Hwy 401W, exit on Hwy 10 and turn left. Drive past 3-5 traffic lights until you get to Bristol Rd. W. and turn right. Drive till you see St. Francis HIgh
School. Turn into the high school at the second entrance (there are 2 entances) and drive past the school into the church parking.
PS - In my hurry, I left out the date. The mass is for tomorrow at 7:00pm at Saviour of the World Church.
From Sin Ling
November 1, 2009 1:36 AM
Having worked all my life in the education field, I understand and appreciate the important role played by the family and peers in the development of children.
I was fortunate to have a good family and many good friends who grew up with me. My parents, like most Chinese parents, valued education and had high expectations of their daughter at school. However, in substantial terms they did not know much about education nor did they have the ability to help me. Thank God I was placed in the best class of the grade, surrounded by smart students, like Kokwai. They set the standards and examples, and somehow I was motivated to be like them.
As Kokwai and I lived quite close to each other, we traveled to and from school on many days. She must have exerted her subtle peer influence on me, as I managed to stay in the same class as her throughout the secondary school years. As my role model, I tried my best to learn to be smart, gentle, hard-working and kind, like her. However, I knew I would never be her equal, though she always treated me as such.
Thank you, Kokwai, for touching my life in such a beautiful way. I feel privileged to have you as my friend. You will be cherished in my heart forever.
From Stanley Ng (1971 Form 5 graduate)
November 3, 2009 6:55 PM
I am really sad to hear of Ms. Ko's untimely death. She taught me history at Form 4 and/or 5. She was always patient and gentle with us. At that time, I never took History seriously and she was once crossed with me.
The last time I saw her was in a Dinner Gathering held at the Convention Centre by St. Paul's some 10 years ago. She recognized me but at the time I just did not how to relate to her and simply let this chance for an encounter slipping away. How silly of me?
Dear Ms. Ko, your personality must have made an impact on me in some positive ways.
You will always be remembered and cherished. May God bless you in Heaven.
From C Wong (Wong Bun Hung, Christopher - class of 1979)
November 9, 2009 4:12 PM
Ms Ko was certainly a very kind person. She was my history teacher when I was in Form two. She was always a humble person, despite she had academic achievement she never boasted of. I was awed at her phenomenal Chinese calligraphy. Also, she was a historian, her Master thesis was titled "The constitutional experiment in early republican China, 1911-1916". The link is as follows: http://hub.hku.hk/handle/123456789/39253
PS - To Mrs Kwok, good to see your comments , though it is a sad place to meet....
From Manying, AKL, NZ.
November 27, 2009 4:59 PM
三载同窗.南迁北徙, 揂有鱼雁传音讯.
卄年远别.天人骤隔, 愧无佳句祭良朋.
敬悼好友桂芬
曼瑛 27.11.2009 于纽西兰.
When I first learnt of dear Kwai Fun's passing on 21 Oct, I've just arrived in Vancouver, mourning the death of my cousin Maggie. Kwai Fun's passing came as a double shock, and I was numbed for quite some time. I wrote a piece remembering Ko Kwai, and I couldn't think of much else--until late last night. At 2am I jumped up from my bed and scribbled the above few lines. Nothing much--just to say, Kwai Fun, I miss you, and i consider knowing you my great good fortune in life.
From Cynthia
November 28, 2009 4:09 PM
My dear friend Ko. Your sudden passing away has shocked me. I grieve for you but now I take comfort in the thought that you are now in the loving arms of our Lord Jesus Christ where you are safe from worldly woes. You lived all your life mostly for others and now it is time for you to rest in peace. Fare thee well!
Please click "comments" here to view lines written by Wong Sau Por, Lucille, Ho Kwai Ming, Matilda, Sin Ling, Stanley Ng, Christopher Wong Bun Hung, Manying Sung, Cynthia Lui...
(Since these comments are not shown on the front page, many of you might have neglected to read them. For easier access, I've copied these comments here for all to read. -LS)
From Wong Sau-Por
October 28, 2009 4:30 PM
I am one of the fortunate ones who knew Kwai Fun since high school.We lived in the same apartment building in HK and I got to know her family as well. Dear friend, I shall miss you and remember you always- your soft smile,your generosity and kindness to others. Rest in peace dear friend.
From Lucille
October 28, 2009 5:40 PM
Knowing Ko Kwai is a great blessing and I will cherish it forever.
Ko Kwai, Many thanks for your loving care and encouragement. You don't have to worry about me. I promise you I will take good care of my health.
Till we meet again.
From Ho Kwai Ming
October 29, 2009 1:35 AM
I met Kokwai at the age of 12. She was almost a goddess to me. It was unthinkable to read about my classmate in Wah Kiu Yat Po, with high praises for her calligraphy in an exhibition. She was good at every subject. I could only admire her from afar. I think I got the name HoKwai because of her.
I was lucky to be able to spend three years in the same class (she was always in 'A', the best class). I came to know that this gentle soul was more than human. I met her a few times outside school. Every time, she was with her mum. She was the most loving daughter I have known.
In St. Paul's College, I have noticed the patience she had with her boys. I heard from the boys that they would never lie to her for two reasons: first, she was never offended, and secondly, she would not doubt them.
I still remember the happy reunion when I visited Toronto. But it is sad to know that such gatherings would be without KoKwai.
From Matilda
October 30, 2009 9:27 AM
I've arranged for Ko Kwai's name to be announced at the 7:00 pm mass for the repose of her soul at Saviour of the World Church in Mississauga by Fr. Lung. For those who wish to attend, SOTW Church is located on 30 Bristol Road W. To get there from Scarborough, take Hwy 401W, exit on Hwy 10 and turn left. Drive past 3-5 traffic lights until you get to Bristol Rd. W. and turn right. Drive till you see St. Francis HIgh
School. Turn into the high school at the second entrance (there are 2 entances) and drive past the school into the church parking.
PS - In my hurry, I left out the date. The mass is for tomorrow at 7:00pm at Saviour of the World Church.
From Sin Ling
November 1, 2009 1:36 AM
Having worked all my life in the education field, I understand and appreciate the important role played by the family and peers in the development of children.
I was fortunate to have a good family and many good friends who grew up with me. My parents, like most Chinese parents, valued education and had high expectations of their daughter at school. However, in substantial terms they did not know much about education nor did they have the ability to help me. Thank God I was placed in the best class of the grade, surrounded by smart students, like Kokwai. They set the standards and examples, and somehow I was motivated to be like them.
As Kokwai and I lived quite close to each other, we traveled to and from school on many days. She must have exerted her subtle peer influence on me, as I managed to stay in the same class as her throughout the secondary school years. As my role model, I tried my best to learn to be smart, gentle, hard-working and kind, like her. However, I knew I would never be her equal, though she always treated me as such.
Thank you, Kokwai, for touching my life in such a beautiful way. I feel privileged to have you as my friend. You will be cherished in my heart forever.
From Stanley Ng (1971 Form 5 graduate)
November 3, 2009 6:55 PM
I am really sad to hear of Ms. Ko's untimely death. She taught me history at Form 4 and/or 5. She was always patient and gentle with us. At that time, I never took History seriously and she was once crossed with me.
The last time I saw her was in a Dinner Gathering held at the Convention Centre by St. Paul's some 10 years ago. She recognized me but at the time I just did not how to relate to her and simply let this chance for an encounter slipping away. How silly of me?
Dear Ms. Ko, your personality must have made an impact on me in some positive ways.
You will always be remembered and cherished. May God bless you in Heaven.
From C Wong (Wong Bun Hung, Christopher - class of 1979)
November 9, 2009 4:12 PM
Ms Ko was certainly a very kind person. She was my history teacher when I was in Form two. She was always a humble person, despite she had academic achievement she never boasted of. I was awed at her phenomenal Chinese calligraphy. Also, she was a historian, her Master thesis was titled "The constitutional experiment in early republican China, 1911-1916". The link is as follows: http://hub.hku.hk/handle/123456789/39253
PS - To Mrs Kwok, good to see your comments , though it is a sad place to meet....
From Manying, AKL, NZ.
November 27, 2009 4:59 PM
三载同窗.南迁北徙, 揂有鱼雁传音讯.
卄年远别.天人骤隔, 愧无佳句祭良朋.
敬悼好友桂芬
曼瑛 27.11.2009 于纽西兰.
When I first learnt of dear Kwai Fun's passing on 21 Oct, I've just arrived in Vancouver, mourning the death of my cousin Maggie. Kwai Fun's passing came as a double shock, and I was numbed for quite some time. I wrote a piece remembering Ko Kwai, and I couldn't think of much else--until late last night. At 2am I jumped up from my bed and scribbled the above few lines. Nothing much--just to say, Kwai Fun, I miss you, and i consider knowing you my great good fortune in life.
From Cynthia
November 28, 2009 4:09 PM
My dear friend Ko. Your sudden passing away has shocked me. I grieve for you but now I take comfort in the thought that you are now in the loving arms of our Lord Jesus Christ where you are safe from worldly woes. You lived all your life mostly for others and now it is time for you to rest in peace. Fare thee well!
Monday, November 9, 2009
More Pictures of Ko Kwai From Agnes
The following picture shows KoKwai in front of the Art Museum in Victoria, which was one of the touring sites of the Jade Exhibit that she curated while working for the Chinese Culture Foundation.
The following 4 pictures came from KoKwai's own collection of old photos. Agnes asked if you can find her among these classes of 12-14 year olds?
Sunday, November 8, 2009
15 of Ko Kwai's old pictures...
Lucille has selected 15 pictures from Carol, Chen Leung Bing's album reflecting Ko Kwai's life in various stages, namely: with high school friends, university classmates and friends in Canada.
See Ying and her family just uploaded these 15 pictures on Youtube - click the arrow to play: -
See Ying and her family just uploaded these 15 pictures on Youtube - click the arrow to play: -
Thursday, October 29, 2009
From See Ying
I've come into acquaintance with Ko Kwai Fun since high school years. She was one of the gentlest and kindest persons I've known. She was soft-spoken and even-tempered. She was very knowledgeable and intelligent, yet she was ever so humble and always kept a low profile. What impressed me most was her filial piety. In the late 1980s, she quit her job in Hong Kong and flew to Toronto to take care of her mother. When her mom was hospitalized at Queen Elizabeth Hospital, now a Rehab Centre next to Mount Sinai Hospital. She was at her bedisde everyday. I was a volunteer at Mount Sinai then. Many afternoons we met at her mom's hospital room and I was deeply moved by the tender loving care she gave to her mom. I believe that besides me, K.F. must have touched the lives of many other persons in her quiet and kindly ways. Thanks for your friendship, K.F. Rest in peace now
See Ying
See Ying
From 胡文聲 & 潘承芬 (Woo Man Shing & Pun Shing Fan)
高桂芬大家懷念你
高山流水性溫清
桂子三秋悲落英
芬芳依然盈友輩
大洋彼岸嘆同聲
家家爭傳書墨寶
懷璧得以憶舊情
念憐坎坷浮生苦
你心悠然魂安寧
- 胡文聲 潘承芬 同悼
高山流水性溫清
桂子三秋悲落英
芬芳依然盈友輩
大洋彼岸嘆同聲
家家爭傳書墨寶
懷璧得以憶舊情
念憐坎坷浮生苦
你心悠然魂安寧
- 胡文聲 潘承芬 同悼
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Eulogy From Sin Chung Yu
Alas, the news of your untimely departure is so shocking and alarming
Why should it ever occur to a lady so noble (Ko Kwai) and charming?
You always treat your friends with a smiling face
Why did you leave us so suddenly in a distant place?
We shall deeply miss you in our bi-monthly luncheon meetings
Where can we continue to send you our heartfelt greetings?
We cherish the days of our tutorial class
Yet, regrettably, I'll be unable to attend the Memorial Mass.
By Sin Chung Yu
Why should it ever occur to a lady so noble (Ko Kwai) and charming?
You always treat your friends with a smiling face
Why did you leave us so suddenly in a distant place?
We shall deeply miss you in our bi-monthly luncheon meetings
Where can we continue to send you our heartfelt greetings?
We cherish the days of our tutorial class
Yet, regrettably, I'll be unable to attend the Memorial Mass.
By Sin Chung Yu
From Agnes Chan (Wong Pik Chong)
詠五十多年來伴我成長的摯友:
才而不傲
勞而無怨
柔而不弱
天上人間稀有之
-汪-
I’m one of the few lucky people who have known KoKwai for over 50 years. During all those years, we kept in constant contact since we were both History majors, held research assistantships in the History Department, taught History and had a couple of mutual best friends. Her passing was devastating. I can only take comfort in the fact that she is resting in peace in the company of her mother.
Agnes Chan (Wong Pik Chong)
才而不傲
勞而無怨
柔而不弱
天上人間稀有之
-汪-
I’m one of the few lucky people who have known KoKwai for over 50 years. During all those years, we kept in constant contact since we were both History majors, held research assistantships in the History Department, taught History and had a couple of mutual best friends. Her passing was devastating. I can only take comfort in the fact that she is resting in peace in the company of her mother.
Agnes Chan (Wong Pik Chong)
From Bonnie Siu
'Ah Go’ – this was what we used to call her at St. Paul’s College. At the call of her name, she turned, smiling. This was how we used to remember her. But there are more to remember than just a smiling face. We remember her kindness, generosity, readiness to listen and to help.
In the staffroom, Ah Go was always working quietly. Though it was not her habit to crack a joke, she shared our fun. Though she might not raise her opinions often, she was ready to share her views which were unbiased and well-reasoned. Though she might not be an active organizer of any staff activities, she participated in them in good fun. She was a friendly, trustworthy and considerate colleague who was a joy to be with.
For over twenty years, Ah Go remained a good, caring and responsible teacher. The junior students found Ms.Ko a most friendly, kind-hearted and understanding teacher who seldom got angry with their occasional acts of mischief which were never signs of disrespect. The senior students sitting for public examinations were deeply impressed by her conscientiousness and the meticulously well-prepared teaching materials. Her serious and thoughtful way in helping them excel in examinations was greatly appreciated.
Ah Go would be sadly missed for the person she was – a very nice friend with a warm heart and a gentle spirit who never uttered a word of unkindness or untruth. A friend who was easy and comfortable to be with; someone who cared and listened and someone who seldom said no to any request. I could well remember how she used to give us lifts after school. Her car was always full of happy and chatting passengers in a hurry to get to somewhere !
A smiling Ah Go – it was the same Ah Go who met me at her office in a retirement estate in Toronto in 1996 before I migrated to Perth. Despite the long working hours and the demanding nature of the job, she was, as always, ready to do her very best. She was well-liked and respected by her colleagues and the residents there. She remained unchanged in her sincere attitude towards her friends and work despite the passing of time.
Ah Go, you will always be cherished and remembered with fondness by your friends, colleagues, students and people who happened to cross your path.
In the staffroom, Ah Go was always working quietly. Though it was not her habit to crack a joke, she shared our fun. Though she might not raise her opinions often, she was ready to share her views which were unbiased and well-reasoned. Though she might not be an active organizer of any staff activities, she participated in them in good fun. She was a friendly, trustworthy and considerate colleague who was a joy to be with.
For over twenty years, Ah Go remained a good, caring and responsible teacher. The junior students found Ms.Ko a most friendly, kind-hearted and understanding teacher who seldom got angry with their occasional acts of mischief which were never signs of disrespect. The senior students sitting for public examinations were deeply impressed by her conscientiousness and the meticulously well-prepared teaching materials. Her serious and thoughtful way in helping them excel in examinations was greatly appreciated.
Ah Go would be sadly missed for the person she was – a very nice friend with a warm heart and a gentle spirit who never uttered a word of unkindness or untruth. A friend who was easy and comfortable to be with; someone who cared and listened and someone who seldom said no to any request. I could well remember how she used to give us lifts after school. Her car was always full of happy and chatting passengers in a hurry to get to somewhere !
A smiling Ah Go – it was the same Ah Go who met me at her office in a retirement estate in Toronto in 1996 before I migrated to Perth. Despite the long working hours and the demanding nature of the job, she was, as always, ready to do her very best. She was well-liked and respected by her colleagues and the residents there. She remained unchanged in her sincere attitude towards her friends and work despite the passing of time.
Ah Go, you will always be cherished and remembered with fondness by your friends, colleagues, students and people who happened to cross your path.
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
A Chinese Poem From Frieda Ling
念桂芬
三載同窗如陌路 零柒聚舊喜相逢
慈顏美德印象深 贈詩厚意銘心頭
善良篤實世鮮有 親朋戚友齊稱頌
一年一度多城轉 桂芬音容麗晶候
可嘆來日再歸時 斯人已去席成空
生者情誼益珍重 莫等逝後追憶濃
麗徽 (Frieda) Phoenix, AZ
三載同窗如陌路 零柒聚舊喜相逢
慈顏美德印象深 贈詩厚意銘心頭
善良篤實世鮮有 親朋戚友齊稱頌
一年一度多城轉 桂芬音容麗晶候
可嘆來日再歸時 斯人已去席成空
生者情誼益珍重 莫等逝後追憶濃
麗徽 (Frieda) Phoenix, AZ
Monday, October 26, 2009
From Fong-ying Yu
My Memories of Ko Kwai Fun
It was a BPS reunion that brought Ko Kwai Fun and Poon Shing Fan to Vancouver some years ago, and that’s when I met Ko Kwai after many years. We had a dim sum lunch together with Woo Man Shing and Chan Yin Ling. I knew she’s teaching in Toronto, as a sort of supply teacher. I teased her to get a piece of her calligraphy. I vaguely remembered her promising me one in Hong Kong many many years ago. In her self-effacing way, she begged me not to pursue the subject, and I let it go, thinking I might give it a better try on her home ground when I go to Toronto. Alas, that is not to be.
Looking at the recent sample in Remembering KoKwai, I feel the loss even more, for the calligraphy is the person. Hers, I feel, is a beauty exquisite but unasserted yet with a steady strength (温潤如玉, 穩重如盤).
One year her senior in the university, I hung about the Chinese Society for three years (1963-66) doing this and that. Ko Kwai -- that’s how her friends all call her, punning but with real respect because of the aptness of it -- studied Chinese and history, I think. She was an executive member of the society for some years, so we met, in working for or going to the functions of the society. Smiling a lot of the time, she was a humble and considerate person, dependable, thoughtful, able to hold her own. There was no mistaking that she was a serious person too, in her studies and in her attitude to life. She soon emerged as a sort of big sister to whom problems were brought and solutions sought. After graduation, we met but rarely amid the hurly burly of Hong Kong life, but we were both in the field of education.
I have a diminishing train of friends who share common backgrounds: a Catholic education, similar university education, love of Chinese and Chinese culture, the teaching profession, common friends, common values. With her passing, I cannot but feel diminished too.
Ko Kwai, may you rest in peace!
Fong-ying Yu
Vancouver, October 26, 2009
It was a BPS reunion that brought Ko Kwai Fun and Poon Shing Fan to Vancouver some years ago, and that’s when I met Ko Kwai after many years. We had a dim sum lunch together with Woo Man Shing and Chan Yin Ling. I knew she’s teaching in Toronto, as a sort of supply teacher. I teased her to get a piece of her calligraphy. I vaguely remembered her promising me one in Hong Kong many many years ago. In her self-effacing way, she begged me not to pursue the subject, and I let it go, thinking I might give it a better try on her home ground when I go to Toronto. Alas, that is not to be.
Looking at the recent sample in Remembering KoKwai, I feel the loss even more, for the calligraphy is the person. Hers, I feel, is a beauty exquisite but unasserted yet with a steady strength (温潤如玉, 穩重如盤).
One year her senior in the university, I hung about the Chinese Society for three years (1963-66) doing this and that. Ko Kwai -- that’s how her friends all call her, punning but with real respect because of the aptness of it -- studied Chinese and history, I think. She was an executive member of the society for some years, so we met, in working for or going to the functions of the society. Smiling a lot of the time, she was a humble and considerate person, dependable, thoughtful, able to hold her own. There was no mistaking that she was a serious person too, in her studies and in her attitude to life. She soon emerged as a sort of big sister to whom problems were brought and solutions sought. After graduation, we met but rarely amid the hurly burly of Hong Kong life, but we were both in the field of education.
I have a diminishing train of friends who share common backgrounds: a Catholic education, similar university education, love of Chinese and Chinese culture, the teaching profession, common friends, common values. With her passing, I cannot but feel diminished too.
Ko Kwai, may you rest in peace!
Fong-ying Yu
Vancouver, October 26, 2009
From Manying Ip (Sung Man-Ying)
I met Ko Kwai Fun totally by chance. I asked her the way to the HKU dental clinic and she took me there. Thereafter, we became such close friends that many of our contemporaries mistook me for one of the Belilious Girls--because i followed her and joined most of the activities she took part in.
We took the same papers through our three years at HKU, and I joined the History Society, participated in the Chinese Society--all because of Ko Kwai Fun. In our 2nd and 3rd years of our BA course, the two of us met up regularly in the City Hall garden and studied history books together, sharing notes and exchanging ideas. Long after our graduation, and after my migration to New Zealand, we met up again in 1988, and went for a nostalgic visit to the City Hall garden--to revive the memories of our undergrad days.
The two of us went hiking quite often, with my younger brother in tow. We enjoyed the reservoir catchment areas, and the various trails around Vistoria Peak.
Ko Kwai was a very filial daughter, and decided to keep her mother company to move to Toronto. Somehow the family's decision was to move in April (?) 1988, before ko Kwai's teaching duties in St Paul Boys' School finished. She was responsible for the history teaching duties of many classes, from Form 2 right up to Form 7. I was on sabbatical leave and based in HKU, so she asked me to take care of her classes, which I gladly did.
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After her migration to Toronto we kept up regular but infrequent correspondence. I visited Toronto three times in the late 1990s and then 2004. Both times Ko Kwai was my first visitor, and her delight in seeing me again was over-whelming and very touching.
She took me to visit the museum, and then we tookwalks in the park. She was still her own quiet and modest self--low key, self-effacing, and extremely considerate. After all these years, she still remembered my birthday, and gave me special little presents to celebrate the day.
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Right now I'm in Vancouver, and I've brought with me the 'swan brooch' and little 'opal ring' which are both gifts from Ko Kwai. I intended to ring her from here, not knowing that she went to Washington.
Ko Kwai's calligraphy also graces my home in Auckland, New Zealand. Right now, one 'ci' poem hangs in my sitting room, and another couplet hangs in my bedroom, both with her signature and seal.
She was one of my very best friends from University days, and I shall miss her for a long long time.
Manying Ip (Sung Man-ying) currently in Vancouver
We took the same papers through our three years at HKU, and I joined the History Society, participated in the Chinese Society--all because of Ko Kwai Fun. In our 2nd and 3rd years of our BA course, the two of us met up regularly in the City Hall garden and studied history books together, sharing notes and exchanging ideas. Long after our graduation, and after my migration to New Zealand, we met up again in 1988, and went for a nostalgic visit to the City Hall garden--to revive the memories of our undergrad days.
The two of us went hiking quite often, with my younger brother in tow. We enjoyed the reservoir catchment areas, and the various trails around Vistoria Peak.
Ko Kwai was a very filial daughter, and decided to keep her mother company to move to Toronto. Somehow the family's decision was to move in April (?) 1988, before ko Kwai's teaching duties in St Paul Boys' School finished. She was responsible for the history teaching duties of many classes, from Form 2 right up to Form 7. I was on sabbatical leave and based in HKU, so she asked me to take care of her classes, which I gladly did.
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After her migration to Toronto we kept up regular but infrequent correspondence. I visited Toronto three times in the late 1990s and then 2004. Both times Ko Kwai was my first visitor, and her delight in seeing me again was over-whelming and very touching.
She took me to visit the museum, and then we tookwalks in the park. She was still her own quiet and modest self--low key, self-effacing, and extremely considerate. After all these years, she still remembered my birthday, and gave me special little presents to celebrate the day.
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Right now I'm in Vancouver, and I've brought with me the 'swan brooch' and little 'opal ring' which are both gifts from Ko Kwai. I intended to ring her from here, not knowing that she went to Washington.
Ko Kwai's calligraphy also graces my home in Auckland, New Zealand. Right now, one 'ci' poem hangs in my sitting room, and another couplet hangs in my bedroom, both with her signature and seal.
She was one of my very best friends from University days, and I shall miss her for a long long time.
Manying Ip (Sung Man-ying) currently in Vancouver
From Matilda Kwok
Kwai Fun was the one rare soul that remained simple and uncontaminated to the end. To me, she was the sister I never had. I shall always cherish fond memories of our time together. She taught me to be a better person and brought so many dear friends to me. Much as I mourn her passing, I take comfort from the thought that she is in a happier place, reunited with her mother she had so dearly loved, and in the embrace of God.
Ah Go (that's how I called her), Rest in Peace! I shall always miss you! Thanks for giving me so much caring and love throughout!
Matilda
Ah Go (that's how I called her), Rest in Peace! I shall always miss you! Thanks for giving me so much caring and love throughout!
Matilda
Remembrance of Kwai Fun, from Elsie Sze
Our memories of a loved one often come in recollections of episodes we connect with him or her, those moments in time that together become a celebration of a life that had touched us in different ways. As we all try to come to terms with Kwai Fun's unexpected and untimely exit from our world, our lives, and grapple with our deep loss, I want to share one such moment with you....
In the autumn of 2005, I was at one of the author’s events for my novel Hui Gui at a Chapters store in Markham, a weekday afternoon, not the best time for a reading. A few minutes to the start of the program, but where was the audience? It was disheartening to see so many empty chairs. Then, just before I was to begin, I saw two familiar faces which lifted my spirit: that of my youngest son, Tim, who had rushed to the bookstore all the way from the university downtown after class, and that of Kwai Fun, taking a seat quietly in front, and giving me an encouraging smile. I started to read from my book, feeling reassured and confident, knowing I was reading to two special people, my own son and Kwai Fun, strangers to each other, but who in that instant had joined forces to boost my hurt morale, and put me on a pedestal when my pride was suffering. I am crying now as I think of Kwai Fun at that moment in time, when her presence meant so much to me. Thank you, Kwai Fun, from the bottom of my heart.
I miss you very much, KKF. My prayers and love. Rest in peace.
In the autumn of 2005, I was at one of the author’s events for my novel Hui Gui at a Chapters store in Markham, a weekday afternoon, not the best time for a reading. A few minutes to the start of the program, but where was the audience? It was disheartening to see so many empty chairs. Then, just before I was to begin, I saw two familiar faces which lifted my spirit: that of my youngest son, Tim, who had rushed to the bookstore all the way from the university downtown after class, and that of Kwai Fun, taking a seat quietly in front, and giving me an encouraging smile. I started to read from my book, feeling reassured and confident, knowing I was reading to two special people, my own son and Kwai Fun, strangers to each other, but who in that instant had joined forces to boost my hurt morale, and put me on a pedestal when my pride was suffering. I am crying now as I think of Kwai Fun at that moment in time, when her presence meant so much to me. Thank you, Kwai Fun, from the bottom of my heart.
I miss you very much, KKF. My prayers and love. Rest in peace.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
From Hin-Shing Wong
Kwai Fun liked to listen to some traditional Cantonese opera music. In particular, she liked listening to 任劍輝+白雪仙's 帝女花. If you like to listen to Cantones opera, please join me:
I would also like to dedicate this hymn - "Nearer My God to Thee" - in memory of Kwai Fun:
Hin-Shing
I would also like to dedicate this hymn - "Nearer My God to Thee" - in memory of Kwai Fun:
Hin-Shing
This Chinese Calligraphy was written by Ko Kwai in 2007 for the HKU 40th Reunion held in Toronto, Canada.
This Chinese calligraphy was written by Ko Kwai in 2007 for the HKU 40th reunion head in Toronto, Canada.
From Carol (Chen Leung Bing) and David Lee
小別竟千秋
悲嘆良朋成幻夢
高談猶昨日
可憐弱女喪花旗 (By Carol)
桂子滿梢頭
此去三秋驚蒂落
芬芳盈友輩
今逢二豎竟香銷 (By David)
悲嘆良朋成幻夢
高談猶昨日
可憐弱女喪花旗 (By Carol)
桂子滿梢頭
此去三秋驚蒂落
芬芳盈友輩
今逢二豎竟香銷 (By David)
By Frieda Ling
I, too, am saddened by the shocking news of Kwai Fun's sudden passing.
I did not know Kwai Fun at all until the 2007 reunion dinner in Toronto. I was immediately impressed by her aura of serenity and warmth, and have come to associate her with kindness, the very quality so many of you have singled out as her hallmark. Ever since, when I had a chance to join in the lunch gatherings, I had looked forward to her presence with her welcoming smile.
You will also agree that she was a gifted calligrapher of a calibre rarely achieved by overseas Chinese of our generation (and as far as I am concerned, by any Chinese in any generation). I will forever treasure her generous gift of the poem adorned with her exquisite penmanship. If any one who was not at the dinner wants a copy, I will be happy to scan it for you.
Please let me know when the memorial service will be. I will try my best to join you in spirit.
I also have a request: Will anyone who knew her well be willing to write an "in memoriam" in her honor? I will offer my service to do the editing.
Frieda from Arizona
I did not know Kwai Fun at all until the 2007 reunion dinner in Toronto. I was immediately impressed by her aura of serenity and warmth, and have come to associate her with kindness, the very quality so many of you have singled out as her hallmark. Ever since, when I had a chance to join in the lunch gatherings, I had looked forward to her presence with her welcoming smile.
You will also agree that she was a gifted calligrapher of a calibre rarely achieved by overseas Chinese of our generation (and as far as I am concerned, by any Chinese in any generation). I will forever treasure her generous gift of the poem adorned with her exquisite penmanship. If any one who was not at the dinner wants a copy, I will be happy to scan it for you.
Please let me know when the memorial service will be. I will try my best to join you in spirit.
I also have a request: Will anyone who knew her well be willing to write an "in memoriam" in her honor? I will offer my service to do the editing.
Frieda from Arizona
By Julia Wong (Kwong)
Friends call her Ko Kwai – a very fitting description of our friend who passed away. She was a noble lady, but not in the worldly sense of the word. She did not care for the material things in life. Diehard pragmatists may label her impractical or even naive. She was simply out of this world. She led a frugal life - dressed simply, lived simply, and spoke quietly. She was so gentle and self-effacing that she could be easily overlooked. Anyone who did that, however, is sadly mistaken.
Ko Kwai had a good brain. She was a top student at Belilios Public School and graduated with honors at the University of Hong Kong. That’s not because she was just one of those students who knew how to study for the exam. She knew more than what’s in the textbooks. She was an intellectual. She was well versed in Chinese history and literature. You referred to some event in history; she would give you a clear description and analysis. You mentioned a novelist; she would tell you what he or she has written. You asked a remote question on calligraphy; she would give you an answer. And of course, she was a good calligrapher. She was a favorite student of Au Kin-gong or what the Chinese would call “in-room student.” Her works were in great demand and treasured by all her friends.
She was capable, responsible, and helpful. For all these qualities, she was her teachers’ favorite and appreciated by all her peers. She had always been a student leader both in high school and in university – class prefect, member of the debate team, student organization executive, editor, and held many other such positions. She took on these duties not because of the publicity that came with these official positions; but because she genuinely liked to contribute and to work for people. She was a generous person. She actively went out of her way to help people when they were in need; and took up responsibilities without being asked. She was the unofficial organizer of the HKU class of 1967 in Toronto. She got the alumni together to meet every month; and organize gatherings when friends came in from out-of-town.
Her warmth and humanity were not easily surpassed. These qualities were felt in many ways and many times by her family and friends. She gave up her teaching position at St. Paul’s College to be in Toronto with her mother in her last years – a sacrifice that many would hesitate to make. Without local training and working experience, she was not able to get the employment that her education and ability would deserve. She moved from job to job. It must be hard for her; but she kept her spirits high and never complained. Her siblings and friends appreciated her special qualities; and gave her every support in these difficult times.
Ko Kwai Fun was indeed a noble person; and a sister and friend hard to find anywhere anytime. She would be missed by all.
Ko Kwai had a good brain. She was a top student at Belilios Public School and graduated with honors at the University of Hong Kong. That’s not because she was just one of those students who knew how to study for the exam. She knew more than what’s in the textbooks. She was an intellectual. She was well versed in Chinese history and literature. You referred to some event in history; she would give you a clear description and analysis. You mentioned a novelist; she would tell you what he or she has written. You asked a remote question on calligraphy; she would give you an answer. And of course, she was a good calligrapher. She was a favorite student of Au Kin-gong or what the Chinese would call “in-room student.” Her works were in great demand and treasured by all her friends.
She was capable, responsible, and helpful. For all these qualities, she was her teachers’ favorite and appreciated by all her peers. She had always been a student leader both in high school and in university – class prefect, member of the debate team, student organization executive, editor, and held many other such positions. She took on these duties not because of the publicity that came with these official positions; but because she genuinely liked to contribute and to work for people. She was a generous person. She actively went out of her way to help people when they were in need; and took up responsibilities without being asked. She was the unofficial organizer of the HKU class of 1967 in Toronto. She got the alumni together to meet every month; and organize gatherings when friends came in from out-of-town.
Her warmth and humanity were not easily surpassed. These qualities were felt in many ways and many times by her family and friends. She gave up her teaching position at St. Paul’s College to be in Toronto with her mother in her last years – a sacrifice that many would hesitate to make. Without local training and working experience, she was not able to get the employment that her education and ability would deserve. She moved from job to job. It must be hard for her; but she kept her spirits high and never complained. Her siblings and friends appreciated her special qualities; and gave her every support in these difficult times.
Ko Kwai Fun was indeed a noble person; and a sister and friend hard to find anywhere anytime. She would be missed by all.
Remembering our dear friend - by Louella Szeto
I've built this blog to remember our dear friend, Ko Kwai Fun, whom we always called her as Ko Kwai. She was such a wonderful person and a classy lady, during our school days and up to the day she left us. She had a kind heart and a kind soul and she was always smiling. I miss her already and will always remember her as a dear friend.
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